Warning Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

[Wingfoot]

Are You Ignoring...
The Warning Signs Of A
Cheating Spouse:
Easy Steps You Can Follow
To Answer The Tough Question

Could you be sleeping with the enemy? Let's discuss the darker side of love. Here's the inside scoop from Houston-based Private Investigator Lowell Abrams of AllState Investigations/Texas on "How To Catch A Cheating Spouse [or significant other]":

Come home a little earlier than expected: Then hit the re-dial button on all the phones. You may not be the only one surprised by who answers the other end of the phone.

Does your significant other have a cell phone? The same re-dial feature comes in handy here, too.

Cell Phones, Part II: Most of them have a history of the last 10 phone calls dialed. Hmmmm...might be worth reviewing sometime when the other person's in the shower or indisposed.....

Cell Phones/Part III: Does your spouse have one? Why not? Don't you care about their safety? Then get 'em one...then make sure you have the bills [or copies of the bills] sent to you so you can peruse the "calls made" list. Make sure you specify with the cell phone company that you want a bill that includes a detail of all incoming/outgoing calls.

Also worth noting when you get a look at the phone bill? Check to see who receives the first call they make (when they leave for the day), and the last call they make before arriving home.

Does your spouse/significant other travel? After they leave their hotel, call the front desk/business office/cashier a few hours later, and tell them you're the assistant for [name of target] and that they either didn't get/don't have/lost their bill/receipt [pick one]. "Could you please fax a copy to our office? Here's our fax number..." They'll never be suspicious you'll have a chance to inspect the charges incurred. You might be surprised at the amount of information on a hotel bill [especially if the target has an expense account]: Room service, in-room movies, mini-bar and [drum roll, please] a detail of the phone numbers called. (Have fun...!)

Hmmmmm, new underwear? Scents and style are always two big warning flags that something's going on. She's wearing new perfume? He's wearing new after shave? New boxers [if they wore briefs]? New briefs [if they wore boxers]? New thigh-highs? Garters? Underwear? Lacy bras? Bustiers? New romance almost always triggers new purchases in these areas. Believe it.

Spending hours on end surfing the Internet? If your spouse/significant other is practically obsessive-compulsive about checking their e-mail, there's probably more than just business e-mails they're looking for. There's some pretty amazing software out there that monitors kid's (and spouse's!) on-line activities: IAmBigBrother 9.0 Spy Software automatically records everything your spouse, children or employees do on-line. Features include stealth e-mail monitoring, chat and instant message recording, complete keystroke logging, screen shots and more. Check it out.

Here's 20 more signs that you might not be crazy after all:

* The Quick Click: Frantic mouse clicking when you enter the room
* The strong desire for privacy when they're on-Line
* Purchase of a phone calling card
* Signing up to multiple web-based email services
* They start exercising and become more concerned about their looks
* Callers hang-up when you answer the phone
* They suddenly want a digital camera or scanner
* Show a lack of attention/affection towards you
* Their computer seems to become more important than the family/your relationship
* They becomes secretive with their cell phone calls
* Check out their cell phone bills and look for long incoming calls at odd hours
* He acquires a prescription for Viagra/Levitra/etc.
* They acquire a pager/become secretive about their messages
* Unexplained payments start showing up on bank statements
* Gas credit cards may contain uncommon locations of gas stations
* They suddenly beg to do their own laundry
* They become "unavailable" at work -- "with clients"
* They subtly start asking about your schedule more often than usual
* Mileage on their car is higher (or lower) than it should be
* Clothes smell unusual or have stains

Wanna get a copy of a phone bill? A credit card statement? Run a license plate? Get some background on someone...perhaps outside of conventional channels? Then you need to find an information broker. Don't ask/don't tell: They name a price, you pay...they get you what you need. Illegal? Perish the thought. Effective in the world of personal intelligence? Play to win kids. Here's a good starting point to find an information broker.

Is your spouse spending a bunch of time on-line? Doing "Research" or some other lame excuse. There's a good chance they're engaging in activities that (experts agree) lead to extramarital affairs. Too many stories and too much evidence in this cyber-area.

The bitter truth is a tough pill to swallow, but it's better you know sooner than later, especially in these times of sexually transmitted diseases: Combine picking up an STD with the harsh reality that a whacked-out spouse (or significant other) is spending your money on someone/something else other than you/your family, and it all leads you to a sobering bottom-line reality: Catching them sooner is always better than later. Do any of these "Cyber Infidelity" warning signs ring any bells?

* Spouse installs passworded folder software so only he/she can have file access
* Spouse spends more time on the Internet then he/she does with you or the family
* Spouse gets irritable or jumpy when interrupted
* Excessive time in chat rooms
* Downloaded pictures of opposite sex
* Spouse becomes defensive in conversation
* Large number of screen names on "Buddylist"
* Stopping to check e-mail several times a day or night (i.e. on the way to the bathroom in the middle of the night, or rushing home from work on lunch break)
* Passwords are changed/demand for privacy
* Spouse may become distant and withdrawn
* Loss of interest in usual activities, including sex
* Spouse neglects responsibilities
* Sleeping patterns may change - the peek hours of social interaction on the Internet are late at night
* Credit card bills - pornographic sites; hotel bills; restaurants; flowers; jewelers;
* Cellular Phone Bills- look for unusual calls/lengths of conversations
* Spouse begins leaving for unaccounted periods of time
* Odometer reading in spouses vehicle is not consistent with the mileage of where they said they were going
* When spouse leaves room to take their cellular phone calls
* A post office box
* Passenger seat in vehicle has been moved to an unusual position
* Unusual credit card or ATM transactions
* A sudden change in style of appearance/wardrobe
* Unaccounted for paid "Sick Days" on paychecks
* "Working Overtime" with no extra hours or benefits to show on paycheck

Jon & Kate

Be alerted early in the game if your spouse is screwing around with your money. There's a huge benefit of subscribing to a credit monitoring service that most people don't even realize:

Every time your wife or husband opens a new credit card account or requests a credit line increase, you'll be instantly notified! This type of information is invaluable to innocent spouses being rudely jolted into the spending reality that's been going on behind their backs. If you think your spouse might be less-than-faithful or even planning to divorce you in the near future, credit report activity is always one of the earliest signs that's ignored or not even recognized by soon-to-be-ex-spouses (or their attorneys) Cut 'em off at the knees and start monitoring your credit reports immediately!!!

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[beyond help]

Thanks a hell of a lot Wing. Now my wife will think I'm cheating on her. One woman is a big enough headache, I wouldn't want to even think of dealing with 2. Also as a side note; that Kate bitch, and the Octomom can go straight to HELL. F*** them and the horse they rode on........Wait, that might produce another 14 kids. S****.

[Red Dawg]

Wing,

You always come up with the damedest stuff. On top of that you are right. That is how I caught 2 of my es's who still live in Texas cheating.

[ifinditunderground]

Another sure sign is to walk in on them in the sack......they left that off the list.

[yahoo]

hey Ifindit .....that one is classic...they had to leave that one out....caught with another woman!!!

[TheCableVine]

When in doubt, kick 'em out.

That is a great list and everyone should know what is on it. The one thing they left off the list that is probably the most important one of all is your intuition. Just follow your gut feeling and you will be right most of the time.

[THELOCATEGURU]

Sounds like the Gestapo check list.

[AlexanderHaraldur]

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) He stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

[ifinditunderground]

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) He stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

Oh boy, another spammer in our midst.....

[Alayna01]

Ohhh..very interesting things. When your husband or wife cheats on you, a lot comes to mind. There is blame game going on and, if you are the bad guy, you will seek ways of justifying your actions. It is not always easy to make out what some of your emotions are. There is so much to deal with. When your spouse has not cheated on your, you are always afraid that some day it might be you.

[1idejim]

this is just an opinion, but it' mine.

women should be in the endangered fish category, catch and release only.

if you kill either one out of season your gonna get locked up.

[Wingfoot]

LOTTERY QUESTION

A husband says to his wife, "What would you do if I won the lottery?"

She says, "I would take half, then leave you."

"Excellent," he replies. "I won 12 bucks. Here's $6. Now, get the f**k out."

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[Alayna01]

There are many signs through which you can find out whether your spouse or better half is cheating on you. But it is becoming more and more difficult nowadays because of the advent newer technology. It has become easier for people to cover their tracks.


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[yahoo]

wow didn't see that response coming????

[sniperspy2009]

Nice Article... Cheers!!